Let me say something, perhaps, that I see coming down the pike. With your husband's travel, etc. You are very ripe to either walk out of the marriage or end up in an affair. You are starved for emotional connection and it's not happening right now in your marriage.
As much as Sara harps on Retrouville I think she's got a strong point -- maybe an intense weekend might help. I suggest you book a weekend with your husband.
Perhaps you haven't made it clear to him how empty you feel. Maybe now is the time. Tell him you love him, but are feeling very unfulfilled. Tell him you want a great relationship with him, and are willing to give it a try.
It sounds like both you and your husband are burning the candle at both ends. You are strained and exahuasted while he pushes himself at work too much.
Perhaps if you gave yourself a little breathing room, and started having fun, you might be more creative and less exasperated when you communicate with him.
I would encourage you not to allow us on this board to become "permission givers" for you to give up on your marriage prematurely.
I'll be honest, it's very easy for me to villanize all the spouses who are causing my online friends some pain. In fact in some cases, where I see someone begin to reconcile with their spouse on these boards, I've had moments to think, "Gee...they could do so much better." Not a healthy thought on my part.
