it's my opinion that if you approach someone with fear, hurt and resentment, (NOT saying that's where you're at, but maybe W sees it that way!) anyway, you're gonna get it right back in your face in the form of anger, apathy and self-righteousness
i hope, that if my H becomes uncomfortable with any of my actions, that he can come to me, calmly and say something like,
"honey? i know this might make you mad or something, and I'm sorry, but i just wanted you to know that you hanging out with other single dudes makes me uncomfortable and afraid. you don't have to say anything now, and i'd even appreciate it if you took some time to think about it and maybe get back to me about it later, if you want. no pressure, k? just needed to tell you. oh, and another thing, could you pick me up some laundry detergent next time you go to the store??"
and let that be the end of it...
time and space to mull it over
to think about goals vs. fights...
