Quote: I'm getting very uncomfortable because this very much reminds me of the conversations we used to have about her going out all of the time and not really listening to what I was saying about her boundaries then. The past seems to be resurfacing. In reality, she's always had a problem with boundaries, but if I tell her this, I can expect a very angry W. So, how do I approach this? Her hackles are already up, she's in fight/defensive mode even though I'm not biting.
hmmmmm...
well jethro...It'd be my opinion also that somehow this "issue" needs to be addressed...otherwise it will fester in you...so how to address it??
choose to accept it as is...trusting that maybe w has learned about boundaries and will not let anything happen that shouldn't happen ....after all she did say once if I recall that she'd never do anything like it again cause it would kill her (that was her right??) so you can trust if you can find a way to feel comfortable with it..
or you can trust but also have a discussion about the possible concern you have about boundaries being pottentially crossed due to the sit...how could you address this without saying what you've said here..."she's always had a problem with boundaries" as no one likes to be told what's wrong with them...is there another way to address that issue??
