Update to my sitch, the end has come

[mako_man]

Hey, got another question for those that have been through this stuff with a addict. Here's the latest. My W claims that she "resents me so much she can barely look at me, let alone take a step in my house". This is something I have been hearing for the past 8 months while she was cheating. I never understood it, I mean, I am like "Wait, you cheated on me, waited for us to go on vacation then cleaned out my house and left us (my kids and I). You moved us all down here (biloxi) against our will under false pretenses and YOU feel this burning resentment towards ME?" I never got it, and its as strong as ever now even though she is claiming that she is recovering. So, I started to read the AA big book online and sure enough there is good info about resentment, and that its the NUMBER ONE reason why alcoholics relapse. I almost feel like she is saying, "I am gonna relapse, and this resentment will be my excuse!" She says she resents me because she has nothing, and I have the kids, the house, etc. I just bought a new car and she says she resents me for that. I bought a new couch (after she took ours), she claimed "you didnt have to buy such a nice couch!" What the hell? What planet our we on? At this point, she claims to love me, wants more than anything for me to trust her (her words) but hits me with this insanity about resentment, then tells me she doesnt TRUST ME! She says I will never believe her if she does put everything out on the table, it will never be enough and I will always question whether thats everything there is to know. Any thoughts?