Husband, Ouch!!! Poor little guy. I know that had to hurt.
My oldest daughter had a horrible time learning to swallow pills. Finally, when she was about 12, someone suggested I get orange flavored tic-tacs and let her practice swallowing those because they are small and don't taste bad. After several tries she finally got the hang of it. I swear I didn't think she would ever learn to swallow a pill...
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Sorry he fell out of a tree. sounds like he wasn't too badly hurt though. I learned to swallow pills by making a little puddle of saliva in my mouth and putting the pill in it. Then taking the water and swallowing. The saliva makes it slippery. those antibiotics are big though. He can cut them in half and then do it. It's an important skill to learn to take a pill. (what will the kids in college say if he needs liquid drugs?) Just kidding. But it is important. He may as well learn now.
It's an important skill to learn to take a pill. (what will the kids in college say if he needs liquid drugs?) Just kidding. But it is important. He may as well learn now.
Sara, Exactly... this is what I told W also. NOT EVERYTHING COMES IN LIQUID. As for College.... What will they say when W comes to sleep in his room because he can't sleep by himself also?
Today so far is weird I don't know what it is. I can't put my finger on it. Now it is only 4:00am but still there is something in the air....better go check my H. scope...
Later Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Pisces February 19 - March 20 Reinstate the lost art of writing love letters by penning a very special note to your sweetie. Take time to put your personal touches throughout; let your honey know how you feel deep inside. Leo July 23 - August 22 Butting heads with your sweetie? It's easy to let egos get in the way during a lovers' spat. Approach the problem with the option for compromise instead of full-out war, and you might just find some common ground. Aquarius January 20 - February 18 Bored with your lover? Instead of calling it quits, spice things up by treating one another to a fantasy date. Use your imagination and let your heart have free reign. Virgo August 23 - September 22 Your good energy is pushing you in a new direction -- maybe so far that you feel the urge to travel. If you can hit the road on a whim, go for it; otherwise, it's time to make those big plans.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok I started out saying today seemed different. I don’t know what it was about today I just woke up and it seemed different. Then My Buddy Michael stated that he was moving onto piecing... this got me thinking. My W is not leaving. She is not sleeping with the OM. Soooo at this time infidelity on not an issue. I am going to follow my brother in arms. I don’t know why my truck passed smog. Every test I did says it should have failed. But I just went for it. I kept a positive attitude and let the higher powers take charge. And it passed. I feel that maybe if I move to piecing then I can put a positive swing to my marriage also. Hey I tried everything else. Who know I may be back soon. PLEASE all of you come visit me. I went back and I started my thread on 5/3/07. My first post was 5/7/07. I went back and looked at where I was, where I went. And I see where I am today. I did say to myself that I would give it 1 year. That date is next month. All of you have meant so much to me. I care and love you all as family. I wish I was a Mormon then I could marry all of the women and take care of them like they deserve to be taken care of. Of course living in different states I would be getting frequent flyer miles. And when I went to see wife Saffie...... I would have to spend at least a month riding "bare" back with her. I have attached some of my past here.
5-7-2007 my first post
It's hard not to snoop. I found out where the OM works, I have his and his wife’s home address, I have his cell Phone # and the Phone # of several Phone booths he call my W from. But all of the time I was looking for this stuff I felt miserable. Every new thing I found would bring me down a little more. So I stopped looking for him. I stopped worrying about their conversations. Anyway now I could so easily mail the photos to his home and business and make him feel pain. But what would I gain? I would have my W mad at me and probably for sure end our R. I have stopped snooping. I do have all I need. It's kind of like having a weapon of mass destruction. I'm not going to use it but I can. It is a feeling of power. However it is not the OM. It is my wife that I need to work with. SHE is the one that has to decide that what ever she is looking for can be found right her. She needs to tell him to stop calling. And when and if she does tell him and if he does not stop calling then I have the WMD.
6/18/07
Saffie H,
it’s natural to have these down times. Anticipating things like going to the time share are going to bring on these feelings. If it's any consolation, I got very low when it got to my youngest D's b'day as that was the date last year that my H last slept with OW. Truly, the anticipation of the event was worse than the actual day. I knew in advance that I had to try to keep it all together for my D. Everytime she got excited about her b'day I wanted to tell her to SHUT UP!! - but it wasn't her fault that her dad had been such a S@*T. Everytime she mentined what presents she was hoping for I just wanted to cry. HOWEVER, I decided to make the day my own and reclaim it JUST as you need to reclaim your time share. You need to replace the bad memories with good ones. Photo's seem to be something you like as a record of your times with your son etc. Take photo's of this visit with your wife and post them for us to see. Replace the bad photo memories with good ones.Do anything it takes to replace the bad vibes with good ones. Rearrange the furniture in the rooms if that helps, just do anything to make it a positive experience. If the place does make you really low then thing about selling it and getting another time share.
It seems that you are almost thinking that this weekend is a make or break point. It seems to have taken on a life of it's own and somehow I feel from your recent posts, (and I could well be wrong), that you feel this trip will indicate the permanent way your M is going to go. Don't think that if that is what you are doing, think DB'ng and baby steps....so far they really seem to have been working for you.
I also find that for no apparent reason I can suddenly go from being ok to really unhappy. Something must be bringing back a bad feeling or memory without me knowing what it is. Sometimes my H being caring toward me can make me cry and not want to be with him as I will think that he was like that with HER at some time, othertimes I never even think about it. Quote: it's going to be a long day,how could I have not seen I was losing my marriage years ago. How Could I have not seen I was driving my W away.
You are taking too much upon yourself here and beating yourself up. It takes two to make a relationship. There is no point in looking back too much at this point - LOOK FORWARD. Re-read some of your earlier posts - things having been going well, your wife has been laughing again.
I think that the thought of going to 'the scene of the crime' is much worse than actually doing it. And you know that we will all be there with you in spirit cheering you on. YOU HAVE BEEN DOING SO WELL.
I think we all wish we cld give you a hug and I know we will all be waiting to hear how it goes. You take our hopes with you.
Hugs
Saffie
Theoden 7/10/07 Husband,
Regarding Saffie's idea of reclaiming the timeshare....
Now Theoden is going to go on a limb here and give you insane advice.
I know this is a stretch. But how crazy are you?
Find a Catholic Church. Get some holy water and put it in a small jar/vial. When you get to the time-share, when she isn't looking. Sprinkle some water on the sheets, the bathroom, the bedroom, living room, etc.
If you are REALLY crazy try this. Look on online and find the Catholic rite for excorcism. Print it up. Read through it while you sprinkle the holy water. Yes....adultery is mostly an issue of the mind/heart. But, in my view, there are dark forces that aggravate these tendencies in us. Be careful when reading the rite of exorcism, it'll give you the goodbumps. You'll feel some kind of warfare going on as you read it.
--Theoden
me the church 07/10/07 Hey Theo,
I'm back. I don't know what came over me last night. I think it was all the sorrow and hurt I have endured these last few months and then yesterday all of my friends (you guys) were being hurt. When ever you or andyv or any of the others here talk about their pain I feel it. I did allot of volunteer work but I had to stop because my heart hurt so badly at the end of the day seeing people suffering. Theo, you got some big brownie points today with the big guy upstairs. On the way home I did stop at a church. This is the first time I went to church in a long time that I was not going to a wedding or funeral. I took off my wedding ring before I went in. I dipped my hand with the ring in the holy water and then blessed myself. I held my ring tight in my hand and started to walk down the isle, about half way I started crying. The church was so quiet. All I could hear was me crying. I walked up to the first pew and again did something I have not done in years. Because of my bad leg it is extremely hard to kneel but I did. I held my ring tightly between my hands and started praying. Praying and crying. I prayed for the OM. That he would find peace with himself and his family. I prayed for the OM family so they would not feel the pain I was feeling. I prayed for my son. The truly innocent one in all this mess. I prayed for my Wife. To free her of the demon that is haunting her and to find room in her heart for me. I prayed for my house hold my home to make it safe. And I prayed for me. I asked for forgiveness. All through this like I said I was crying then I had this like rapid breathing come over me and then a big breath. I put my ring back on and blessed myself again and then just stood there and stared at Jesus on the cross, I thought about all of the suffering he went through and then my didn't seem so bad. I then left to go pick up my son. I feel better. I think being the dad, father and husband we get it instilled in us that we are the protectors. We have to show stretch to inspire our families so they feel safe. Sometimes (when they are not looking) ya got to let it go.
Saffie, You are half right. These weekends is not a do or die situation. I am not expecting my W to break down in tears and come crawling to me. But to be honest I am looking for a sign. I sign that things are moving in the right direction or not. If things are just "holding" (because I have to admit I have come along way, My W seems happier, she talks to me, Does not give me that annoyed look when I ask her something.). But I don't want to be room mates either. Can't wait to get that book WAW is sending me.
Sorry if I brought anybody down today. I should have just gone dark until it passed. But then again The Mighty THEO would not have inspired me to go to church. I am defiantly going again. Not to mass though but just for some between God and Manuel time.
Husband
delia Husband-- 07/11/07
It's unreal! It's like some psychic power you've got there--to know so much about me....but Momma never taught me how to flip a cigarette. She taught me how to hold the chawing tobacco just so...and spit it with deadly accuracy. Been thinking about going to the family reunion up in Smith County this September, to meet some guys... my Anaverery dinner 07/17/07
ok here ya all go....
The trip here was nice. Talked a little in the car. Surprising the 5 hour trip seemed to fly by for me. First stop was bridle vial falls. Not much of a hike. Going up hill I don’t have a problem it’s going down I USED to lean on somebody but this time I just used my cane. My daughter asked me if I needed help. Told her thanks for asking but I can do it myself. Not much water. After we went to the lodge. Now this is where I may have screwed up. I am doing a 180 on this trip. And I am trying not to pursue but. (And that’s a big butt). The W and I brought the first load of stuff to the room. Another trip was needed I told her no problem I was going to stop by the shop so I grab the last bit when I return. OK normally the W and maybe my son would go back and get stuff because of my leg. Sometimes I USED to play the sympathy card... But I said I would NOT to pursue but to show I could do it. Any way we had a nice dinner, she ordered her chardonnay, I who would normally order beer ordered Chardonnay also but a different kind. I told her that way we can try each others out to see the diffeance. She said great. When the wine came she proceeded to tell me how the zinfandel wine I used to drink was a sissy wine and that Chardonnay
Is the next step to red wines that true wine drinkers drink? So I sipped mine and tasted hers and told her mine was a little dryer. She agreed. Said hers was a little more expensive that the one I ordered. If I wanted hers she would trade. I said no that’s ok but thanks.
Ok I see this like when CL’s W complains or puts him down on his dancing. We all know CL is a great dancer it’s just that his W wanted to put him down. That’s the Way my W would be with this wine thing. BUT…… Just like CL’s W has recently complimented him on his dancing and asked him to join her, My W kind of complimented me on my evaluation of the wine and even offered me hers.. Anyway guys and gals. It’s the next morning everybody is asleep. When they wake the next big 180 is coming up. You see I am verrrrrry self aware of my leg. I always keep it covered. Well RIGHT NOW I AM SITTING OUTSIDE THE LOUNGE IN SHORTS. Yes the world can see my leg. Just to let you know how it feels to me it would be exactly like any one of you sitting naked outside. That is how private my leg condition is to me. BUT ya know what…. IT FEELS GOOD. Got to go now I’ll talk to ya all later. Well…. The 1.2 mile hike up to the water falls was very interesting. It’s not a big trail. People kept commenting to me about my leg and how good I was doing. Daughter and I mostly stayed together. Went all of the way up no problem. Got my W to sit with me on a bridge with the falls behind us so my daughter could take a picture. ˝ ways down I started getting a pain in my side but did not complain. Made it all the way down to the bottom of the valley. Ate lunch and then left for Glazer point. When we headed up the last road the W realized we were low on gas. She said she meant to remind me that we should get gas before we start up the hill. I told her oh well if we run out we run out no biggie. We will just call AAA. To make a long story short we made it to the top of glazer point and back down. Never ran out of gas. When we got back to our time share it was too late for my “Special” dinner so I will do it tonight. I slid the envelope with the necklace signed “Happy anniversary, love ya always” under her bedroom door this morning and then came down stairs to read. When she came down I said good morning. She said thank you for the necklace. I said I hope it does not make your neck turn green. That was it. She did not say anything about our anniversary to me. Oh well according to the book I am reading I do not “need” her to say anything. It is a preference. I would prefer her to acknowledge our anniversary but I DO NOT NEEDS IT...
If I can get my son up we are going fishing soon. Went to get boat but by the time we got there they were sold out. So went to a train museum and panned for a little gold. When we got back to the time share (BTW W slept W daughter). W, son and daughter went swimming. I cooked our dinner. I took a picture of the meal and I will put it on my web site. W was surprised I cooked the snails. Daughter asked why I would cook snails. W tells her because W likes snails. I ate 3. They were OK I don’t think I will do it again. I was thinking after eating the snails was probably a form if chasing and I probably should not have done it. How ever It is the new me in the fact that I am going to try new things. Anyway after dinner my son told me happy anniversary (in front of the W) I told him thanks. My son and I then went down to the club house and played pool for a few hours. After we came back and played the game of life with W son, daughter. Then went to bed. W N EVER said anything about the annv. NO card, NO anything. Like I SAID I WAS NOT EXPECTING ANYTHING. But it would have been nice to have some acknowledgment. Son and I got up earlier today rented a boat and got 2 hours fishing in before we had to go home. I caught one (gave the pole to son to reel in). And Son caught a BIG one. He fought it for a little while and then it went under the boat and the line broke. My son was Soooo excited. The more he repeated the story the bigger the fish got. Well packing up getting ready to head home. When I get there I’ll post this. See ya soon
I'll post pic's soon
I have more thought to post but it will have to wait
Husband
After work I stopped and got son an Ice cream (he stayed home from school because we did not h=know how he would react to the penicillin. (W is allergic to it). AND I bought a signal long stem red rose. When I got home I gave the ice cream to son and gave the W the rose. I said. "Here is Ice cream for the parent and a red rose for the nurse". W smiled and said thanks that are nice. W marinated pork and beef ribs tonight and I BBQed them. WE ALL SAT AT THE TABLE AND ATE....after dinner I put my plate in the sink and walked over to W and said “Wife you are a great cook” and gave her a kiss on the lips. she kissed me back and said” I did not cook them” I said "OK then you are a great marinate"........
Night
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey Don't worry I am not comming back. It's just that I had a bad day today. I mean things with W are fine but The %^%$#& OM came back into my head. I know LET GO LET GO. And I have been doing a good job of that. I don't know what triggered it. Well I think I do know. I am waiting for W to get a job before we go to Retro. But I sooo miss the close ness of someone. You will not beleive how two people walking down the street holding hands really distracts me. I have been listening to every word W says with undivided attention. I have been stroking her ego. But the male "dog" in me is starting to surface. I don't know how Mark does it. Maybe I have some type of sexual issues. But one thing is for sure I did not grow up wanting to become a priest.
Ok I vented. I did not want to do it at my new home because I did not want them to think I am a wimp....
Back to peicing
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I pop in on this topic once in a while also to see who is still around. I wouldn't hesitate to post this type of feeling in the Piecing topic. We all go through this. There is nothing wimpy about these feelings. There will be triggers that set your mind wandering for a long time to come, but these will fade. At least that's what I've been told.
