How did he meet this woman who manages him? Could he go out and find another manager the same way? Is he contractually bound to repay her the money?
As for working on the M - he probably needs to let the dust settle before he recommits to you. Time and time again on the boards you see that whilst the S is still involved and first breaks up with the OP they are not ready to work back on the M. Please give him some time and space and look after yourself. If he is meant to be with you he will see all your changes and gradually come back. I felt my H stayed with me for the children intially. I was very upfront about the fact that that was not good enough for me and he had to want me as much, if not more so. It has worked out that way in the end but perhaps it was the child connection that was the spark that set the M alight again.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
