I am in no way in the right frame of mind to reply, but I will do it anyway.
Speaking from my own situation, I am sick of being walked on and just being expected to let it happen. I honestly believe that in a marriage, there shouldnt be an I. Only we. I dont think there should be occasions where 1 person goes out while the other person is strictly "forbidden" to join. Heck, your sister has her man there, why cant you be there too?
I didnt get this with my W either. She started going out with SIL all the time. A lot of the time SIL would have a man there with her, or other friends would join and they would come as couples, but W would go alone, and in no way was I invited. To me its a bunch of BS selfishness that shouldnt belong in a marriage.
I think this whole time I have missunerstood some of the dbing principles. "Acting as if" I dont think really pertains to this situation, and I dont think this is something to "let go", but I think there are good and bad ways to deal with it. Maybe a time to bring it up, and a time not to. I dont have any idea how to do that. Only thing I can think of that I could have done differently in my situation is to almost have interupted her little getaways. By that I mean this. I make plans to do something, and W makes plans to do something. Now we have a dilema because someone has to watch the kids. Since she gets to go out all the time, shouldnt I be the one to get to go out this time? Of course an argument about it wouldnt be good, but there are probably constructive ways to go about it. I guess its just the frame of mind I am in right now. I personally wouldnt take any of my own advice right now.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
