Ali We have discussed this a lot. You can only D when you are ready to do it but like the others I feel you should now prioritise this. If you look at the interaction you have with your H all the antagonism is from finances and lack of movement on the D. You can usually work things out with the children after all they are not young kids but able to voice opinions and make their own decisions too. A D will actually allow you closure - you don't need to know why your H decided to go with OW honestly. Trust me, he probably doesn't know himself and couldn't answer you if you asked. I know naej said some difficult things but I have to say I agreed with everything that was said and that for your own sanity and those of your children now is the time to take control and push for the D yourself. Take control Ali and then you won't feel you are being bullied but standing up for your right to be the bright, independent, fun loving mum and woman you truly are. x
