Seek, I was thinking about what you said. We do feel so lost at times. Like in the relationship I am in now, I have learned so much about my self and I have her to thank. Many of us focus on our partners or rely on them to the point that when there is that disconnect its harder than normal. I suppose that for some that type of connection is needed, although possibly unhealthy. So often after a bitter divorce of sorts you enevidably hear someone say they will never put complete trust in someone or they will never rely on someone that much again. After my marriage fell apart a few years ago I really had a problem with the fear of the unknown, loneliness and such, you just feel so low and unwanted. I unlike the lady I am seeing now chose not to seek counceling. I see now that was a huge mistake on my part and because I have recently gone I am starting to see things much better. For me, I kinda lost my way during the marriage, forgot who I was, and my view of myself was not good. Our views are so affected by our partners and our daily lives. I would like to think a healthy relationship keeps that view in check. Showing genuine interest in someone, and keeping good communication going. My X-wife is a very bitter person and generally I kept to myself just to avoid her so there was no communication. She was not receptive anyway. Now the lady that I am seeing now is just a blast and very strong with a soft heart and quick wit. She keeps me on my toes and I love the fact that she has the guts to address tough issues instead of keeping them to herself.
