I mat with XW a couple of weeks ago. I had my son 10 with me because what is happening with this sitch is killing him.
The first words out of her mouth were "I know exactly whats bothering him"
I told her she didn't have a clue and maybe she should ask him what was on his mind.
She asked, and I couldn't believe what he said but he poured his heart out to her. Nearly all he had to say was in regard to her (calling in sick)
I told her this is the schedule and I will not accept a sick call amongst other things.
So, fast forward to next week, she calls in sick a half hour before her weekend visit. I told her she had better be here to pick the kids up or I would track her down and she would be FORCED to have her visit. I have had enough of seeing my kids suffer over her decision. She meekly responded that she would be here to pick them up.
It's very easy for the MLCers to call in sick, very easy for them to abandon the kids, or is it? I will not allow her decisions to impact my (our) kids any longer.
I am in a bit of a different place these days after dealing with MLC for 18 months. I am not going to enable any longer. My feeling is that when you bring kids into this world you shall never harm them MLC or not. MLC does not absolve a person male or female from certain obligations, well it does only if we let them.
