Quote: "Damn it. You hurt me. It's your turn to show remorse and make me believe you want to stay. After all, I've done this...this...and this to save the M. Now you have to do something for me." Unfortunately, that isn't reasonable.
Yeah...it's kind of like that. Self-serving, but true. However, for me it goes a step further because I have been more present in my R with my W for many years...not just the last couple where she's been wacked-out. This is what's getting to me more than anything...the fact that I've tried very hard over years to make her happy and I get paid back this way. Hey, I'm no Boyscout, but I've been pretty good...if I do say so myself.
Quote: We have to be the one to still shoulder the load as our Ss work through the sh!t the led to the gap in the M, which will, undoubtedly, lead us to rethink our small but significant role in the drama that led to the A.
Yes. I am redoubling my efforts in this way. Interestingly enough, JJ once said, "Don't get in your S's mood." Well, this has been my biggest problem to date. I get wrapped up in HER drama and get down. Thing is, my W operates off of me, so if I'm down, then she gets down. Thus, the circle of pain continues. I have to take it upon myself to break that habit because she hasn't yet...if she ever will. Besides, it's good to disassociate myself from her moods anyway.
