Beginning again like a newbie

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whoever kept the house would sign a document that would give the other one their half of the appraised equity when the remaining one either re-married, sold the house, or died

Welcome to my thread CG. It's a good idea but as H already has plans to M OW it wouldn't really delay anything. Besides whilst my children are under 18 I am more likely to get to keep the house (althogh no guarnetee). Once they are all 'off my hands' I could find myself having to sell and move just b/c it's H's wish. As traumatic as it is I think now is the best chance I've got of keeping the house. I just don't know how the hell I'm going to afford it. H has already split our family apart I'm going to try really hard to make sure he doesn't loose us the only home our children have ever known as well.

Looking at your tag line CG I think you have more of a chance of saving your M than me (even though our timeines seem similar)