Thanks for looking in. I just noticed that I have been visiting this site for over a year. What a year that has been, its been a year of growth and learning so not as bad as it could have been.
Not a lot to journal as interactions with W have been what is now "normal". She is still all over the place emotionaly which is tougher on the kids than me as they dont quite understand.
I have helped her move and get set up in her cottage so now I am backing off and leaving her to it. She needs to be responsible for what she is doing and maintaining the property without me.
She seems to go through a cycle of changing things because she is not happy . This cottage was what she wanted but she is still not happy , New friends , then she is not happy with them and so on. Still has not figured out that she needs to be happy with herself.
Sounding really good, Dave. I know what you mean - sometimes I look at when I registered or # of posts and think "can that be RIGHT???"
Sounds like a good approach for now. Yes, hopefully she'll realize that someday. (sooner than later would be nice.. )
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Just checking up on you Dave. Yes, it does sound like things have settled into that new form of "normal" in your R.
Wondering how your leaving her be is working out. I bet it's tougher at this point on her than you, because, as you say it's been a year of growth & learning for you, whereas she still sounds unsure of where her unhappiness comes from.
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Slowly