H is having affair after all

[Holly06]

Eve,

no matter what you do H will find fault with you. It makes him feel not so low down dirty. You deserve this treatment, you are rotten too.....
doesn't matter.

What matters is that you not allow him to get to you while you are healing. I get that you did not mean it, that's cool.

You and I think he should give you some time for appearent bad behavior in view of his deeds, but they don't see it that way.

He is trying to push your buttons. He seems to be threatning D.
Don't let it get to you. He will swing back and forth like a pendulum . The key to getting any information into H brain is to get to the point, with a brevity of words.

If you send anything back just, " I was nervous".,

No other words.

Let him pursue you.

Heal, heal , it is about you. It can be about him another week.

Not now.

As few words as possible till you feel stronger.

No guilt either. You are human and allowances will be made by everyone who cares about you for unintentional bad behavior.
UN intentional, as the door bit was.


These events have no bearing on the future. I am sure of that. There are plenty of folks here that have experience with lots of badly behaving men and women who get a second chance at a marriage with them. No guarentees mind you, but thes days have no bearing on the outcome. YOu are allowed to make mistakes.