Please help...need MLC advice

[tpaschal]

So...another question.

Temporary orders hearing has been set (rescheduled for the 2nd...or is it 3rd time?) for this Wednesday. It was supposed to be Feb. 13 but got postponed until March 12.

H called me Feb. 13 and wanted to "talk." I think I may have posted earlier in this thread about that convo. We met for lunch and it was basically him telling me he'll play nice and offer me a good settlement if I'll keep the case out of the courtroom and just hurry up and settle it, but play nasty if I don't....but that either way the D will be final by June and there's nothing I can do about it.

Now, it's true that this case has taken longer than many do in Texas, and he keeps accusing me of dragging things out on purpose, which is partially true, but it's also that H is a big procrastinator and has done very little to push things along.

Either he wants to ignore it, and is simply being the big procrastinator he's always been until OW gives him a hard time about pushing it faster, or he wants me to do all the work for it so he can say, "See? She wanted the D, too!"

After talking to him, I met with my lawyer 2 weeks ago, and he basically begged me to finally untie his hands and let him start making his case. (I've told him repeatedly I do NOT want a divorce and have asked him to only take action when H does something that we HAVE to respond to.) He said he was afraid H was at the point of having his L file a motion for a hearing to be set, and we would be "caught with our pants down" and not having all the info. we need for the case. He also said that if H and I want to settle, that was fine, but we first need to get the temporary orders hearing out of the way---it will give us some info. on financial matters and get some things settled and out of the way so that we can negotiate intelligently, plus, it will be one less thing for me to worry about if I can finally get enough money to pay the monthly bills while we are going through negotiations.

I said okay. So...one of the first things he did was to subpeona OW to be at the hearing on Wed., and to bring all her bank statements and other financial stuff!!!

Yuck. I do NOT want to see H and OW together! Plus, I did not know L was planning to do this, and KNOW I will get sh** from H about it. Ugh. What do I do? What do I say? (I kinda know, but would love to hear it from you guys.)

Do I take someone with me to court? A friend? MIL? She has offered to go, though I know she would feel uncomfortable. Ugh, ugh, ugh.

Is this going to ruin any chance I have of DB'ing? I know everyone says to NOT make it about the OW, not to attack the OW, and this move by the L does ALL of those things!

HELP!