Still Confused - Just not as fresh

[Snow White]

H called on the way home asked I if I wanted coffee or tea, then called a few minutes later fuming about how the h he was going to get in the driveway (that shovelling I was thinking about never happened).

I told him to park across the street at the arena and he was annoyed because he had forgot his boots at work came in complaining that he has another 8 hours of work to do on the driveway. I got dressed and went out, took about a half an hour to clear a spot big enough for his car, I came in a couple of times to have a sip of my tea, it is hard to do physical labour when you have lost 20 pounds in 2 months due to stress on top of the 30 pounds you had already lost dieting. I kept thinking if I do this until I collapse then he'll feel real bad. He kept saying you don;t have to do that, why are you angry?

My friend called while I was shovelling, he didn;t answer. I asked what she wanted and he said oh probably to go out. I said that is what she wanted I had set up a slepover to go out tonight. Again he was shocked, How come? I said because I didn't want to sit home alone. Not going due to the weather.

Not discussing the lawyer was hard since he called. Basically all the call was, was for us/me to ask questions and then if we want an in person consulatation they set it up, first 1/2 appt is free rest is 25% off. H listened while I talked, I offered speaker phone. He was suprised and taken aback that I had crunched the numbers to determine debt and equity and whether or not I could keep the house. The one thing that did come up in the convo that I had been not mentioning was spousal support and pensions. I make double what h makes and in our province the lower income spouse is entitled to 1.5 to 2% of the difference per year of cohabitation forever(as long as he does not remarry or live common law). I am not sure what the entitlement is to pension. This is only something that is given if asked for and there is discussion about eligibility and the percentage but fault at the breakup of the marriage is not applicable. The whole covo was odd because he was very jokey about it like we would have normally been over things in the past, woohoo I;m going to take your pension.....Maybe I will go live in the basement and you can give me spousal support and I will make sure you have no dates.

I did ask when I got off the phone if this is what he wanted and he said, I don;t know I was really mad that you went to her store on Thursday. He made a point of telling me he had not talked to her since then and then went through his texts this morning that included ones he had sent me and I had sent him friday morning. (the memory only holds less than 20 in each box) I am so confused at his motives since the whole point was that he was refusing to give up speaking to her. I didn't address it just listened. We watched Rambo 4, wow it was gory. This morning was decent, we made up wrestlers on facebook and played back and forth. He made a comment about on how on his day off tuesday he is really going to win all the matches because he can log into both accounts while I am at work. Does anyone else see why I am so confused!!! I think 20 threads from now I will still start with STILL CONFUSED.