I asked H if OW knew how much he realized how much he loves me and wants to be with me and he said he thinks she does. So I think he is breaking it to her gently.
Keep talking, Patti, as your H needs to know you are there for him and maybe tell him you have fears just like he does.....
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
they also build us up to be such monsters to OW as to why they had to leave blah blah.....so then to have to tell them ooops i made a mistake.....i love my wife....must be hard in their warped brain.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
My h told me that he never said anything bad about me to anyone. I have a hard time believing that. I know when the ow started to really pressure him to cut me off financially he really got worried. He told me that he would never do that to us. So that was step one for my h.
Hard on their warped brain, you bet. After seeing my h go through this I can really understand how insecure and unstable he was. He was totally confused about HIS LIFE. He knew he wanted his family back. He knew he wanted his M restored. He had to get to a certain point in MLC for that to happen.
Your h will get there too. It all takes time. It takes so much patience and understanding on your part that you sometimes want to say "what about me and my needs." Patti, you are doing really good. You will make it.
yes sometimes i wonder when is someone gonna make me feel safe.....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
yr, ive been reading your threads when your h was boucing back and forth....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
they are i see you running the same gamut of feelings that is do....wondering if you will ever have the "whole" man back???
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
