It's done. W called and we talked. I canceled my plans with her today. Then told her I'd been thinking about our conversation on friday, that she does need to work out her feelings for OM, that I loved her and wanted to make the M work, but that couldn't happen when she wouldn't allow me to fulfill any of her needs. I said it made me sad because I knew that if we worked on it, the M could work. She said she didn't know - was very cold.
So I said I'm filing. She said we should do mediation and I replied that I needed to think about my options.
Then said goodbye and she thanked me for calling.
I really wanted to be able to do this, but really don't see anyway to do it when she's so adamantly against making it work and will be spending the next 4 months with OM off and on in isolated working conditions. There is absolutely no chance for us to find any way to reconnect under those circumstances.
And of course she doesn't have very good relationship skills and that means these problems are going to probably continue cropping up.
It's time for me to be realistic about the possibilities and move on. For myself.
