Re. the cheque: I think you should keep it b/c he could well accuse you of prying and not take it as you intend, and also b/c if I remember correctly, you've had difficulty getting him to pay what he should be, so I think this is somewhere that you need to draw a line.
Re. the D: What is your strategy here? I thought you weren't trying to delay it anymore?
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