My last thread locked. First of all I want to thank everyone that has helped me over the last year…I don’t know how I would have made it without you guys.
Today would have been my 6th wedding anniversary….instead it’s the day I truly become free of XH’s mess. Sure, I probably should have quit putting up with his sh$t a year ago, but we all have to do it in our time….and now it’s my time.
Here’s a summary of my story….let me warn you ahead of time…it’s a sad one.
XH and I were high school sweethearts. We married shortly after I graduated from college. We always had something special….we were complete opposites…but always understood each other or so I thought. After years of trying to get pregnant and a failed IVF, he started to have an affair. He tried to run away from himself and his problems. Within the first three months of his affair, he moved 3 hours away and in with OW. He left me, his entire family, his horse farm that he built, quit his job of 5 years….everything that he ever knew. I tried for months to save my marriage….then I tried for many more months to save him from himself….I just couldn’t do it.
Last June, I finally decided that I was through. He had literally put me through hell and back. He was still on the fence but he had been living with OW for 6 months at that point and I decided that I wasn’t doing it anymore. He followed through with the divorce and actually gave me more than my fair share….might be the only decent thing he did. Our divorce hearing was on his birthday. Even on that day, he was an @ss to me. As I was sitting outside of the courthouse that day, his mom broke the heartbreaking news to me that OW was pregnant. OW claims that it was an “accident”….I don’t believe it for one second. At that point, I was so glad that I had signed D papers sitting on the chair next to me….I didn’t have to be a part of this soap opera anymore. I was free of the lies and deceit.
I was doing fine after the divorce even put myself out there and dated a guy for a few months, but last week XH and OW’s baby was born, so it kind of took be back. XH had been contacting me periodically since the D. I let him….never disclosed much about me…but always took his calls. A lot of people on here had told me that I needed to stop contact with him because there was no point to it….I just couldn’t do it. However, after the stunts he pulled last week, I am no longer speaking to him. Last Tuesday, the baby was born and he sent me a text with the baby’s picture attached. I was ready to chalk it up to a mistake that he didn’t really mean to, but then on Thursday, I get a text from him asking for a onesie that we had bought for our baby….that was the last straw for me. He couldn’t be any more inconsiderate or cruel….I don’t care if he is still crazy it is downright sick. So I packed all the baby stuff we had and wrote him a letter and told him here it all is…don’t know why you want it because it was for our baby….do not contact me anymore. He should have gotten the letter yesterday.
So here I sit…completely free. It’s probably a year too late, but like everyone said time is on my side. I’m a successful, beautiful, strong 28 year old woman…I don’t need his craziness or cruelty in my life. I have a lot to offer someone, and I’m gonna have a great life. I stood on my own two feet and fought this battle with my integrity intact and I’m holding my head high as I close…truly close this chapter of my life. So here’s to my new life….
