You are so much better tham OM could ever be. Not just to us - I'd put money on it your W thinks that too
Ditto! And the fact that you are willing to put your hurt aside for now, not attacking her for something she is already beating herself up for (OM), shows that you have true deep love for her. If you had been following her around the house this entire time, questioning her and accusing her of things, she would have bolted.
There will be time for sorting through the muck of the hurt, hers and yours.
