What it looks like to me is your wife is being very well coached here, probably by her lawyer. Leaving the house was a huge mistake on your part but what is done is done. The protection order wasnt done because so is afraid of you it was to tarnish your character. She wanted you to signup for the abuser/anger class because that would reflect badly on you too. Follow what they have ordered to a T, despite how absurd it is. The parenting evaluation should help sway thing back in your favor but dont do anything stupid right now. Quit calling her friends, as this does look controlling on your part. Pretty much you need to pretend your wife doesnt even exists right now because right now she doesnt. You are dealing with a money grubbing, lying, cheating woman that USED to be your wife.
At some point I expect she will wake up and realize how badly she has acted. That is when it will be up be up to you to decide if you really want her back. Divorce sucks, I know. But maybe getting this woman out of your life isnt such a bad thing, it surely isnt when she is acting like this.
My gut feeling is that you feel like you have somehow failed your family if you cant somehow make this all work out in the end. Your end may not turn out how exactly you had hoped. But would a divorced dad with 50/50 access to your kids really be such a bad thing?
