I see your point about the defense mechanism, Mark. I really do.
You are doing the best you can, and doing great, I might add.
Another plus about you staying right where you are, is that as long as its semi-peaceful in the house with your W, you have "another day to be your little kids dad"...that's a quote from a country song, but I knew I had to point that out to you, since you aren't a big fan.