Ok, I know I'm just filling up my own threads so that no one will want to read them, but who wants to read all my failed DB techniques anyway. I'm almost out of my funk but still need to vent some more.
The thing that's driven me crazy all day is how to proceed. I left it ambiguous with W, but it is absolute craziness that she'd expect me to let her sleep with OM for 6 months to see how it feels and then re-evaluate our M. Absolute craziness. I know it's the brain chemicals, but she's so d*mn independent that all my other approaches, while they've been successful, have all fallen short. She just WON'T give up OM, especially since he's a major part of her PhD, so she's getting a career charge as well as a love charge. Plus they do fun stuff together, so an activities charge. She won't do anything with me, though I keep asking. This is why it's so hard for me to see a way to make this work.
And yet, we keep coming close. On Marriagebuilders.com, they recommend trying to out-compete OM, at least for a set time period. Hard to do when W won't do anything with you, but that's the option I was going to start trying. But this is craziness! I deserve better and I should just confront her with that and file for divorce!
