Piecing...gosh this is hard ll

[ACJ]

AN2,

It seems to me from what you have posted that you are doing the right thing by listening to your H BUT it doesn't seem like you are telling him what you need from the R. How can you rebuild if he has no idea what a good M looks like to YOU? IMHO you have to have this convo at least once.

i really want to talk about the physical part, in a way.

Then do that. It is really clear to all of us here how much this means to you. Your H needs to hear that too.