Beginning again like a newbie

[ACJ]

There is no reason for you leave my thread Naej I just wanted to make the point that sometimes you are a little more cutting than I am in a position to be able to take right now. I don't need to feel criticised I do enough of that for myself.

but from your H's point of view he might be better off to a degree,or at least he thinks he would be.

Yes that is the crux of the matter. It can be no coincidence that his 'deadline' coincides with when OW looses her job and they will be even more financially strapped. Interestingly I learned today that they are thinking of buying her a car as if she gets the next job she has applied for she will 'need one to get there'. I know public transport isn't brilliant in this country but surely if you are already struggling to eat it should be the preferred method of travel?

why did he decide to look elsewhere again?

The answer to that question is what I need in order to gain some sort of peace. I need to know what I have to put right. H is not prepared to give me that answer. He can't see that if he does things will probably improve in his favour.

maybe this was what they call an exit affair

Yes he most definately had one of those but not with the OW he is with now. He met her a month down the line and 2weeks after finishing with the other young girl that he had the exit affair with. He has admitted as much to his brother.

but you also so say he chooses not to understand you because it doesn,t suit him!

We'll have to agree to disagree on this one. In the entire time he has been left he has not allowed me to express how I feel about any of this that is why I say he chooses not to understand.

I am saying make it as amicable and civil as it can be whilst protecting your interests and your childrens,

That's all I have ever tried to do and if what I write comes across differently then I need to learn to write in a different style.

the cut off my nose to spite my face moments

I'd love you to tell me precisely where you have seen this in the last few days. All I am trying to do is handle the interactions that HE throws at me. Right now I would rather not have any interactions with him at all b/c it hurts too much to do so.