I'm so sorry I missed you yesterday, but wanted to post and say that I'm so sorry you were feeling bad, but so pleased the RCR quote helped you feel better. I found it when I was feeling like I wanted to die from aubergine poisoning one day, and it really helped me too.
(((Beth))) I've been missing you on the boards, but glad to hear you're doing well when you're not here. How are things going with the house sale?
L.xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
After I wrote what I wrote last night, I felt super retarded. I wished I had been able to delete it! Can you forget what I wrote? I think it was disrespectful of what you're going through for me to write that. I am really sorry to hear your feeling the loss. It sucks. Sucks sucks sucks. But telling other people about it and letting yourself feel it will help so much. I'm so sorry that you were brave enough to post about it and I told you not to worry about it. That was a total lack of validation on my part. Please forgive!!!!!!!!
T...I had to re-read what you wrote and I still appreciate what you wrote! Don't feel bad at all because I certainly dont!
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
Jeff-- No trips to Tucson anymore...going to the Poconos instead. B-F wanted to drive instead of fly. But, from all the stuff you sent me, i certainly want ot get out there!
So, i realized that I haven't been keeping you all up to date on everything T & OD & Jeff...my 3! What would I do without you?
((((((T, OD, JEFF))))))))
So...
H & I interactions: Often over IM, text. we talk pretty often now adays. From both of us. He is still w/ OW because I was in her neighborhood around 3 weeks ago and saw his car there.
H sent me cookies for V-day. I never wrote him to thank him until he asked me about them and I said that it was awkward. he wrote back that he understood.
Sunday: H and I IM'ing each other. H convinced he told me a story: H (story) B: You did NOT tell me that story! H: Oh, maybe I told (3 other friends) B; or maybe you told OW B: "you forget you don't tell ME things anymore!"
(long pause over IM from H)
H: Anyway...(continues with story)
I've seen 2x this week:
Monday: I called him because our pet bunny let me hold her FOREVER which she has never done before. when I called him, he was at his parents house and asked if he could come over. I said yes (it is only around 5 minutes away). He came over and we both petted the bunny, I got her to let him hold her. It was nice.
Tuesday: I had been telling H previously that I was going to do something special to watch the Primary elections (H, especially is very political). He ended up coming over and we spent the night together. He left around 11pm. We sat on the couch talking, joking. Hug goodbye both times.
H still wearing his wedding band.
H's 30th birthday is next week. Him and OW have the EXACT SAME BIRTHDAY..SAME YEAR AND EVERYTHING.
I think about last year. I found the card I gave him a while back. H had told me he had to work on his birthday. My card said that I was sorry he had to work on his birthday. I'm sure he didn't work, but spent the night w/ OW. Anyway, when I found the card a few months back, I ripped it up and threw it away.
So, i'm having a hard time w/ H birthday. I don't know if I should buy him a gift. I just don't know what I should do.
One Day...You already went through this, right? I can't remember what you did?
I'm doing ok, otherwise. I really should write more to you guys about the deep things I'm going through, rather than just reiterating the interactions I have.
Talk to you all soon.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
Sounds like you and H are interacting more and more. Isn't it different to when we first started posting? I think it sounds great, and you sound like you're doing really well too (not that I'm surprised by that- you are the DB Queen after all!)
I love that your H sent you a present for V day- he was obviously thinking about you, and you DB'd masterfully with your IMs. That, plus the visits and the fact he's wearing his ring seems like good steps that he's taking!
I have just recently been through the birthday thing. It was a bit of a dilemma, as H didn't send me anything for V-day, and I was still smarting a bit from that. In the end, I sent him a funny card with a lighthearted message inside (I think I posted the details on my thread on Feb 29th or March 1st). We spoke on his birthday, though, and H mentioned getting together to celebrate, so I suggested we do something a bit different and exciting. I didn't buy him a present and don't think I will, although I might buy him a drink if we go out to celebrate together.
Have you had any more thoughts on what gift you'd give if you were to give one?
(((Beth))) It's so nice to hear from you. I love that H is visiting and laughing with you, and think it's interesting that he's doing it. Like the aubergine, it's hard to understand her being OK with it all, which suggests things aren't all fun and games in La-la land.
Lisa xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
B-F wanted to drive instead of fly. But, from all the stuff you sent me, i certainly want ot get out there!