Your H said it himself, he is in a haze. It means he CANNOT think! Why would you take his "thinking" into consideration?
As for the pleading and begging, forget that you've done it (he will. He is in a haze, remember?) and keep DBing! Don't wait for him, of course, just live for yourself and your wonderful D and remember that it's over when YOU decide it's over.
Hang in there, ok?
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08