Beginning again like a newbie

[ACJ]

Not sure I understand this IF you are doing very well financially and H isn,t how will a D be financial suicide for Both of you?

Because we have an extremely low mortgage which I can pay by myself but if I have to buy him out I will struggle. The house is now worth 10 times what we paid for it. I don't have that sort of money to give him or even to remortgage.

remain m to H for the next 5 years

I have never said I intend to drag this out for the full five years (and it would only be another 3 anyway he has already been gone 2).

surely your marriage was not working

While we both worked at it things were fine it was when my H decided to look towards OWs again that things went sour. Even then I did not want to give up on the M, it was his decision to leave.

show neither of you are "understanding each other".

I disagree. I understand him completely. He felt trapped by family life, he wanted to live the life he thought he had missed out on. Trouble is he never actaully gave himself this b/c he walked straight into something that was tantamount to another M. He doesn't want to understand me b/c it doesn't suit his purpose to do so.

I am far from sure you have "let go"

I have admitted this much myself.

The 2x4s are fine Naej but sometimes your tone is not