Eve we have a lot in common. H said our M failing doesn't have anything to do with OW (although lately he admits a bit more..). That does hurt. I was withdrawn emotionally from him prior to the affair, bumped him WAY down on the list of priorities, and boy did he feel it. But, he did not convey to me any of his hurt until after I found out about the A. I also see OW from time to time, she was my friend before the A and our girls go to the same school. My H and OW did 'family' things with each other and all the kids all summer long. That hurt, but if I ever found out she was in this house, it would be really hard. I applaud you.

And you totally pegged it my friend, she might be pretty on the outside (with lots of help), but nothing shines like inner beauty, morality and a high quality woman. HUGS!