Questioning the concept of MLC and "Standing"

[missmyfriend]

I understand what everyone is saying and can even understand the person that was less understanding about those that cling to faith. There is a misconception of what it means to follow what their beliefs say. It doesn't mean to allow yourself to be abused or mistreated. In fact, it says very clearly in the Word that your spouse should not be your number one focus. And it is not supposed to be you either. When your primary focus is on yourself, you can become me-centered to the exclusion of others. If your life is totally wrapped up in your spouse, you are raising your spouse to that of God. (BTW, I am only bringing up the spiritual perspective because it has already been mentioned earlier)

Yes, the marriage is important but you cannot force someone else to view it from your perspective. They will not treat the marriage with the same level of importance as you, unless they have a realization that happiness cannot be found in another person and it cannot be found if they are primarily concerned with their own gratification. Even if a person does not believe in God or does not have a God-centered life, the same rules apply.

Excuse me Cinders for using you as an example.

Cinders has done some amazing growing during this ordeal (this is not just my perspective). She is real about everything. She has never denied how much she loves her H and how much he was her center. In fact, she is letting him go while loving him intensely, knowing that neither she nor her H is where her life is centered. If her H is able to work through everything and realize what is really important in life, he will benefit from Cinders growth. If he doesn't ever come to that realization or Cinders' path changes, any of Cinders' future Rs will benefit from these changes.

Faith is not a burden, it is very liberating and comforting.