Hi Debra,
I'm div. but was on your side of the affairs/cheating and believe me, it is better if you don't know too much about the ow.
I don't think you should have gone to see her, now it is worse for you....
Don't think he is imagining her, he is WITH you.....let that be a comfort to you.
Don't be down on yourself....there is alot more to a person than their looks ok?
In your situation, you are obsessing that this woman is the "perfect" woman and that she is "beautiful" in every aspect.....don't do that to yourself...
although I have always been/stayed thin, lost the weight from my 3 kids within a short time, always had my clothes, hair, makeup perfect, you name it,.....my ex cheated and ended up leaving us for a girl who is more on the masculine side than the feminine side, and with an adolescent body....go figure..... [Confused]
There is no explanation and it isn't a reflection on YOU.....trust me!!!!!
You are better off not asking about their times together.....you don't need any more thoughts torturing you.....Don't worry about her, focus on your marriage....if you don't, it will slip through the cracks as you are focusing on ow or why he was with her.....she isn't worth it........

Elusive Butterfly