I love this thread! I know that my H has been going through MLC and think that it started right about the time that his dad died.
Over the past couple of weeks, we've started having R talks, initiated by H I owned up to my 50% for the failure of our marriage, and he owned up to the other half. That is a good start I think. Friday when he was here, we went for a long walk and walked and talked a great deal. He said that he knew that I was severely depressed and had been for a long time in our marriage. I apologised for the house always looking messy and H said that well he had lived there too and could have helped me more. Anyway, he still wants a D, but is talking about us starting a new R. I asked why we had to get a D to start a new R, and he said that he's afraid we'll end up back the way that we were. He says that he likes the new me, not in love with me, but does like me and wants to spend time with me. Is this still MLC or what? I'm trying to be patient and give him space. If he wants the D, I won't fight him on it. I don't really want it, but I feel like it's like every thing else in our marriage. If H wanted to do it or get something, then I saw to it that it happened. Any advice right now would be greatly appreciated. I still love H and don't really want a D, but at this point, I don't know what else to do.
I owned up to my 50% for the failure of our marriage, and he owned up to the other half. That is a good start I think. Friday when he was here, we went for a long walk and walked and talked a great deal. He said that he knew that I was severely depressed and had been for a long time in our marriage. I apologised for the house always looking messy and 
H said that well he had lived there too and could have helped me more. Anyway, he still wants a D, but is talking about us starting a new R. I asked why we had to get a D to start a new R, and he said that he's afraid we'll end up back the way that we were. He says that he likes the new me, not in love with me, but does like me and wants to spend time with me. Is this still MLC or what? I'm trying to be patient and give him space. If he wants the D, I won't fight him on it. I don't really want it, but I feel like it's like every thing else in our marriage. If H wanted to do it or get something, then I saw to it that it happened. 
Any advice right now would be greatly appreciated. I still love H and don't really want a D, but at this point, I don't know what else to do.
