JPDW, Did you check on the post in MLC "the 6 stages of MLC". Well, it opened my eyes and now I can get a grip on what H is going through I'm on such a high right now just from reading it, I made 2 copies.My H is inbetween Replay and Depression. Now I understand why he stopped coming over and why he seemed depressed. The more I learn the stronger I feel. "I can climb any mountain" Some people wonder how I can start to forgive H and look past what he has done to me. Because he is going through MLC it is a sickness and has to be run on it's course. I'm very thankful for this site and all the help I receive here without this site and the support I get I would of been D by now. So, even if my story might not end up as a happy ending, at least I will be able to say I climbed to the top. But I think I have a chance to save this M otherwise I wouldn't be here. This is the first weekend that I've been this happy. I could do the happy dance.(((()))) hugs to all today, I plan on being this weekend. I can see the light! Deb