There's soooo much great information on this website, that I finally just read this post of yours for the first time and I agree with others that you hit the nail right on the head when you said MLC is a "dis-ease" with one's current life or achievements at the point at which a person decides to stop and take stock of who and where they are.
If their tally says "not happy with the assessment", they make a drastic change, often involving another new person who shows promise to help them either make their life more exciting, or to achieve something they desire to achieve, but haven't yet been able to do so far in life.
In my H's case, when he became severely jealous and pushed me away, he lost his "trophy" wife who always lifted him up and encouraged him and told him he could do anything he put his mind to. So he went in search of a new trophy to feed his ego, and someone who other men would envy him for having at his side.
But he's realizing that she really doesn't have all the qualities that I have, so I think he's reaching a new point of taking stock again, and is possibly about to make another drastic change, but with MLC, who knows what that change will really be.
It's just too bad that affairs seem to be what many turn to as their first drastic change to "ease" their "dis-ease" because affairs are such "instant feel goods". It's sad because of the deep scars and permanent damage that affairs cause.
Hopefully people who haven't separated yet, but are reading posts on this website, can recognize the symptoms of their spouse's "dis-ease" and can come up with some kind of "instant feel-good" offer that would show their love and support of their spouse and would also prevent their spouse from resorting to an affair to achieve that "instant feel-good".
I wish I could have known the moment my H had reached that point, because I might have handled things a little differently at that time.
Keep up the good work on this thread! It's a very helpful thread.
