That big black-hole that it seems most of our spouses eventually fall into that ruins our lives.
Either men, or women.
It seems to be unavoidable, seems to be uncontrollable.
What can be done? That's what I'd like to know! Right now I'm not pursuing (Trying anyway) Being upbeat when he is there. Giving him a hug once in awhile, a kiss if he wants one. I'm friendly, help him while he is doing yardwork. I give him drinks while he is there. Give him encouragement in his hobbies.
Do you treat the "disease", or do you treat the "dis-ease"? I think of it as a disease, I don't know what to do or how to treat it. Do you try to take care of them, or do you try to take care of yourself? I'm trying to take care of myself right now.
Do you wait it out, and hope that they come to their senses? I'm waiting, but how long is it going to take!
Or do you take charge, and start making some changes in your relationship? I don't know if I'm doing the right things. I want to make changes in relationship and I'm trying a few things;listed above. Plus I compliment him once in a while. I'm thinking of flirting too?
Where do you start to set boundaries? I don't encourage talk of OW and he is starting to get the message.
Where do you start letting compassion and empathy influence your course of action? I feel the compassion and empathy, what do I do with it? I do think of it as a disease. And I see H is not happy, but I'm not sure how I can help.
How long do you just "wait"? When do you take action? What kind of action should I take? I'm willing to wait as long as I can.
What "180's", "Do Something's Different", "More of What Works", etc,. can you do to help bring you to better solutions to the "MLC Crisis"?! I'm trying to find what work and keep doing it, but things have been on hold, he is staying away again
