I'm pretty sure my husband hit it, I just can't pinpoint when. Things have been trying for a while now, but he drifted and I drifted because he threw himself into work, which was a normal thing for him always anyhow. Looking back, I think I can see some signs. Money has not been a issue for a while now, but I saw his partnership/relationship go down the tubes. I think that's when he started questioning himself and everything/one and started withdrawal. We had some disagreements about what he would do should he decide to leave his business partnership and I now think he felt like I was standing in his way.
Of course the more he withdrew and became unstable, the more I did. The next thing I know, he's found someone else, he loves her, blah blah blah
There are some promising highlights to this story so far. One is he ended R with OW...who actually told him that he'd be happier working things out with me. He does talk to her, but he says it's only to get a woman's view of things. I have not demanded that he end contact with her, but I know he has no physical R with her any longer because that is the only area right now that him and I are able to connect.
I know this will take time.......I know he has to find his way and I have to find mine. I have so many fears, mostly of the unknown, which is always the case. I have started making plans for myself, and he feels right now he just needs to "be".
