Quoting water_runs_dry: JJ-
What are some signs and symptoms of a mid life crisis? I have thought my H has been in one for a while, but C thought he was too young (38)
Well, water, I was kinda hesitant on starting this thread, just 'cuz I'm not "quite" exactly sure of what "MLC" is!!
Or, at the very least, MY opinion of it differs from many of the people here!!
I don't believe that it's so much a "disease" that starts or stops any any particular age.
I think it's more of a "dis-ease", that can come along at ANY time of life, and can be "caught" by ANYbody, at ANYtime, when they are slapped in the face by the reality of life.
Personally, I'm an old hippie from the Bay Area who's more comfortable with the "Identity Crisis" label!!
To me, it doesn't matter so much what your age might be, it seems to matter more what your circumstances are.
When you were 18 years old, where did you think your life was going to be by now? What did you think you were going to be doing?
How much money were you going to have? How many vacations were you going to be going on? To where?
How big was your savings account gonna be? How much money could you just blow each week?
What about your husband / or wife? How much fun was it going to be to be married? How wonderful was it going to be to be able to spend all that time with the person you were having so much fun being around now? Not to mention all the GREAT sex ANYTIME you wanted it!!!
The kids you have are going to be SOOO great!! You know just how to raise them, (totally the opposite of how YOUR parents did it), and they're gonna love you and respect you and honor you, just like they should!! Just 'cuz you're soooo cool!
Should I go on, or do you catch my drift?!
I think that "MLC" comes along when reality slaps you in the face, and you wake up to realize that your life ain't all what you thought it was supposed to be.
There usually seems to be some kind of "trigger" that sets things into play, whether we, or those around us, can see it or not.
You don't know just exactly what you're supposed to do now, but you know that whoever ain't FOR you is workin' AGAINST you.
If you ain't part of the solution, well then baby, you're part of the problem.
Did that last part sound a bit "immature"?
It probably does, but it seems that this is some of what we're up against.
I guess that I just have to question how many times that WE have had some of these same thoughts, but have found the strength within ourselves to not let them take control of our lives, and our actions?
If we DID let these thoughts overtake us, and cause us to take drastic actions to make changes in our lives, to either find a new reality, or to help us confirm that our present reality is where we want to be, what would we want from the people that are closest to us? The people that we love the most?
JJ
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