Quoting lostlove: Quote: (sage) ..here's the dilemma -- you made a lovely gesture and expected a particular response from h. As impossible as it is, can you make the gestures w/o expecting something from him?
become a waw??? sure no problem...I'll just keep on doing what I do...loving h...getting little in return..feeling neglected...letting it go..expecting nothing...til one day I just give up...sounds good to me..infact I think that's the path I'm already on.
LL --- I wasn't suggesting that you become a waw -- stuffing your feelings and expecations. I was asking if you could "let go" of the expectations -- not hold them in and feel angry and disappointed!
I'm not sure if I should post this here, on your new thread or nowhere. OK, here -- my first post this morning (and it apparently missed the mark) was an attempt to "wonder" if you could DB your current sitch -- back to the basics of -- what you're doing isn't working...you're not happy with current state of M....what could you be doing differently? what 180s might you try? what would some short term goals be, etc.
Judging from your other post, that may not be where your head is at right now....
I'm sorry. I can see how much you are hurting.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I was asking if you could "let go" of the expectations -- not hold them in and feel angry and disappointed!