Hey LL,

Quoting lostlove:
I know little about cbt...could you give a little input on how that would work in my sit???


It might help you get unstuck from a particular pattern. The book Chuck mentions several different sorts of patterns and how to get out of them. One of them is a feeling that abandonment is inevitable. I wonder if you feel like that at all?

Quoting lostlove:
ow has denied...denied...denied...that anything happend...one of the last conversations I had with her...the one where she was supposedly complimenting my strength..." you're alot stronger than I am...it's one thing to repair a m after your h has had an affair...but to know your h is in love with someone else" well I said among other things...in reply...oh is that what he told you when he was kissing you..."no LL...he never kissed me..it wasn't like that...anyone can have a physical r...I know you'll never believe us"
so you see...she denies could be that nothing happend...could be that she's protecting her love...could be he's telling the truth..could be he's protecting himself...her and me..I don't know...


LL, what she said was soooooo passive aggressive and evil. She was clearly trying to hurt you. And it sounds like she succeeded. But, ask yourself, which would have hurt you more? Her saying that they were deeply in love and had wild sex, or her saying only that they were deeply in love? My guess is that it is the first, that the PA would be worse for you. And, I bet she knows that. If she could have thrown that in your face, I'd bet big money that she would have. "Oh, LL, you are so strong and brave to take back your H not only after we had wild sex, but also after we fell so in love." GAG. I really think she would have said it if she could have. What an evil woman. Would she move already?

I hope when she does, it will help you move on too. In the meantime, something like CBT could help you change the stuff about yourself the keeps you stuck that doesn't have anything to do with H or evil OW.

Happy nice weather We missed your vivacious self at the Cape.

Hugs,
Acorn