Quote: I am also reminding myself of this. But what do you do when you feel like the fool. I just discover H is in contact with OW. It is like he kicked me when I was down. I don't feel like facing him. Why does H not see that no matter how much he reassures me that he loves me, how great he is at calling from work and how cheerful and helpful he is at home that it seems to mean nothing when he continues to lie. So yes tonight I am the Fool.
you are not a fool bumbling not in the least...the only fools are the one's who do lie, cheat, and basically rob themselves of a loving honest r with us!!!
my h too is in contact with ow..to what extent I do not know...she is a customer of his..so any call I may come across is labeled as being business related...I did leave the house one night with keys to his office and looked at his phone bills and saw calls to her cell phone...that was explained away as being about business, why use the cell phone?? his reason..he doesn't want to talk to her...she's less likely to answer the cell..so he can just leave a message. whatever!!!
I try to not make it be about the ow...ow is nothing..she herself said so..I kindly let her know that she was more of a piece of sh!t that we (h and I) were flushing down the toilet and if she came back up I wouldn't hesitate to take out the plunger and put her back where she belongs.
for me it is more about my h and the fact that HE did this...that he kept something from me, lied to me, left me, etc....still dealing with it...todays not a great day and I don't know why.
I also thought I was a fool....I told h I felt like a fool and his reply..."you were not a fool...you were just living your life" so then that is how I have to look at it...I am not and was not a fool...HE WAS!!! and day by day..little by little...as I show him how awesome I am (hey were'd that pma come from) and how GREAT life can be with me and the kids...he will regret more and more the poor choice he started to make...little by little..day by day..with more of that patience crap (sheesh they should sell it in stores so I could stock up) I will see signs of h realizing the mistake he made and the huge mistake he almost made.
Quote: Enough of me... I can relate to the work issue. My H also works long hours night and even some weekends. What helps me, is to realize that this isn't his choice. Maybe your H isn't choosing work over time at home. Maybe running his own business and his responsiblity to this business requires him to spend the hours he does.
h started his business when he was 19...I watched as his company grew I helped as much as I could...I watched as he sank himself more and more into his business...h works everyday...if he's not working for his business he's working here at home...we've got a great yard comming along with all the work h does...it would be nice to see h sitting on the hammock instead of sitting in the bobcat...but the summer is commming and perhaps he will have more time for it then.
