Quote: Did you ever get to see C together? Would he? I know my H, who would sooner have teeth pulled than talk with me, would be quite expressive when there was a professional present. It just seems you two are stuck without some outside help
we did go a few weeks ago, it wasn't totally productive but then again it was c's first time meeting with both of us...I'm sure it will take a while for him to get to see how we communicate together...and it will take some work on my part to sit back and let the c do his job!
I do have hope for things getting better...for h learning or at least accepting that he has to learn to do some things differently and that doing things differently doesn't mean "changing who he is".
I suppose I should just go sleep in my bed now...why should I sleep on the couch just because h is a shmuck...he does love me, he does feel for my pain...he just doesn't want to keep hearing about it..thing is he's too stubborn to realize that if he simply would say "LL ILY and I'm sorry I hurt you" and give me a hug...he would hear less and less about my pain because I would feel better. but it wont be that way...so I just gotta suck it up and go to him.
