I was AFRAID to answer your last two posts to me on your thread, Hillary!!! You were really ranting BAD! I think it is the added pressure of going to Disney amist of all this! You had been sort of quite the last two weeks, but you should have learned by now, not to snoop, it will only cause more pain, and sure enough, it did!!!
You are all of those things you wish you were, at least to us! H's never seem to see the qualities in their W's, I didn't, and look where it got me! Purpley is really having a rough time, but not knowing either of your H's, it is hard to say where their heads are!! Even if all these sits are "textbook", they are all different! You have said that H has ALWAYS has a hard time expressing his feelings! Just because he doesn't show any emotion, I would bet you he is sorry for what he did, and you need to forgive him! It took me 23 years to realize how bad I hurt my W, and now I REALLY know how she feels, but I didn't want D, and I even continued to help her out financially while we were seperated for 6 months! When her and D came home, It was the happiest day of my life, including the wedding! Fortunately, I had the opportunity to tell my D that Easter Sunday, and also apologized to her for what I did! Unfortunately, I never showed my W how much I appreciated her, and now OG does, and she is sucking it up!
When you told me women can turn on and off that quickly, it sort of hurt! I was hoping that OG would see what HE is doing to her and her M and family, but he is in a fog too! My W could cause a man to do that! She really is wonderful, and I CAN see this happening to her, I should not have let it happen!
Now, I have decided that I just want to help her get through D with as little pain as possible! If I lose everything I will be OK! I have tried to talk her into working out this financial mess with me even if we aren't married, but she keeps getting more hopeless by the day! I can see she is in pain, but not because of D or Me or OG, but because of $$$$$! I told her I would not abandon her and as hard as I was trying to keep this friendly, she is making it hard to do!
As far as Purpley's H, he just plain screwed up! It happens! All the time! I can assure you he is sorry also!
LL, just have a GREAT time with kids and friends at Disney!! AND DON'T POST FROM THERE!!!!! We will all still be here, and so will H when you get back, and we will be bitch**g about the same things, but you will be having fun, and we will still be crying in our beer!
You were really ranting BAD! I think it is the added pressure of going to Disney amist of all this! You had been sort of quite the last two weeks, but you should have learned by now, not to snoop, it will only cause more pain, and sure enough, it did!!!