Still texting and talking by phone every night for anywhere from 90 minutes to 2 hours.
Still getting ILY's, etc. and he still maintains he will be home "very soon."
He does say he does not want to look back or go back to that lifestyle.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
oh boy! you must be so excited. how are the kids with it?
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I don't talk too much to the kids about our conversations but they are okay with him coming home.
They will have to make some adjustments and S17 will have to answer his dad face to face instead of over the phone which is a good thing.
The girls would come into my room at 6AM to put their makeup on, etc. but they will have to get used to using their bathroom only instead of theirs and mine.
Minor adjustments..........
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I bet deep inside you are grinning like a little school girl and so very giddy.
That is so wonderful that you are hearing the ILY's again. It makes my heart melt to hear that and wish you two the best.
I still don't understand why it is so hard though for them to come home when the LBS has made it so very clear all is fogiven and a new life starts without looking back to the old and the mistakes and a new beginning emerges.
Yet another part of MLC I don't understand.
Both 35 T 19/M 15 years S8/D5 It's over bomb/ILYBNILWY 12-22-07
H texted me and also called me and we talked until the wee hours of this morning.
Pretty much the same stuff he has been saying--lots of ILY's, miss you's, says he will be home very soon...........
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi SF; I am so excited for you....inside you must be feeling like you're on cloud nine....the texting has to be fun...I did that with H and would say naughty things to him while he was at work or out of town...he just sent back smiles....I hope to get to do that again someday... Enjoy your weekend with your H....you deserve it... Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Hope your week end is going well. Steelers have you never felt tempted to say " how soon is soon?" when he keeps telling you he will be home soon. After what is it 2 -3 years he,s been gone these convos of coming home SOON must be so hard-like a double edged sword its the words you have been waiting for but they try your patience even more so. Be thinking of you.
Enjoy the process. We all know that there is so much work ahead that one has to enjoy getting to the point of total reconciliation.
I am so happy for you and have never seen anyone handle it so well as you.
Love Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
No, I have never been tempted to ask about a date in which he wants to come home. It has not tried my patience at all.
I am letting him set the pace.
I have to admit that so far, this has been very easy.
I think it has been easy because he is the one who has initiated the talking. Yes, there have been light moments, but also serious ones and like I said it has been very easy.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19