I do not know your whole story. But, I have read many of your posts. And I see a strong, wonderful, dynamic, woman.
I know that things are tough. It is very hard to separate our P's withdrawal of their love and their often cruel words from how we define ourselves.
Please do not define yourself by what your H thinks of you! Please yell it out loud "I AM NOT DEFINED BY MY H'S PERCEPTION OF ME." That is what I do when I start to think that my H rejecting me has anything to do with me as a person! The fact that your H is not capable of appreciating you is HIS PROBLEM and HIS LOSS.
Very few people would have the stamina and the courage that you have demonstrated by fighting for your M in the face of such insensitive and cruel behavior from your H.
The truth is I feel sorry for your H. He has such a wonderful W - and he does not have the mental capacity to appreciate you - right now anyway.
Please do not allow his emotional handicap pull you down - remember his inability to appreciate you is his problem not yours.
