Questioning the concept of MLC and "Standing"

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I think the aspect that is most important is that you feel you have done your very best.

My H is so textbook MLC that I really do feel there must be something to it. That doesn't change the fact, though, that he is not interested and continues to talk D. I've DBed the best that I can and am now going dim.

I mean, is it the start to a healthy R when it starts w/you curled up in a ball, screaming and crying because you feel so sorry for OW? It was just too unhealthy mentally, and knowing what I do about OW only convinces me that H is in another world.

I am increasingly disinterested in letting him back into mine.