Lodo my friend, I am sorry to read about these change in events. Her choice to go back to the OM must be very hurting (I know how it is actually), but I think you really handled yourself well. Continue to work on being friends and do split your finances. I did that when I realized that my H was spending out money on the OW. It is a wise thing for you to do at this point. I know you love her deeply and hate to see this happen. Her choices are painful but your love for her in still there. I still believe she is going to come back to you. You seem like a good man and somewhere in her confusion she knows this and loves you. Ride out this storm....

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08