Questioning the concept of MLC and "Standing"

[Cinderellaman]

Althea,

Your posts have made a real impact on me. You have grown so much and learnt, accepted and lived on ! I remember your pain over your kids meeting the ow. I am now experiencing the beginings of that. And even though I hope that ow won't like having to deal with my kids, I know that I have totally NO influence in how things will go and I cannot know how H and ow will deal with having 'our' kids in 'their' relationship. It doesn't really matter because I can now see that it is HIS and THEIR life, not mine.

I have grown tired of analyzing this MLC, it used up too much energy. Things are what they are....that does not mean I just accept everything, but just the things I have no control over.
Life has treated me good, I have a lot to be thankful and greatful for, and this does not excuse H's choices, but being thankful for the good and the positive has made MY life a lot happier. H and I get along very well as friends and parents. Yes, it still hurts that when my kids are with him, they form a new kind of family unit with him and ow...but that is the way it is. My D9 just told me that ow will be joining them for dinner on Thursday and she will cook, she seemed happy, whereas before D9 was always sad and worried. Well, I am glad she's happy. As a mother that is all we want for our kids.

How my life will turn out, only God knows, he has his own plan and his own timing of things. I have accepted that and am happy to enjoy and live my life the way I see fit, and all will be revealed in time.
It has freeed me, it has given me peace, it has not taken away all of the pain, because I still love my H very much, but a life without pain is a life without joy, for we need one to feel the other !

Thank you for posting Althea. May life be all that you want it to be ! Hugs to your beautiful kids ! xxxxxxxx