Next Steps for W2G

[JennyF]

W2G...when my H started to tell his family he used the word "separated" as if it was mutual and to them they could also have percieved it as temporary. He didn't go out of his way to give any details that's for sure. I mean, how do you say, "Grandma...I just left my wife while 8 months preggo for an OW who I've been having an A with for 9 months".
Doesn't usually go over too well. Look for him to protect himself.

I agree that the reality is a good thing for him.

the part I'm finding difficult is that he shows NO SIGN of being upset that D2 and I will not be spending Easter with him and his family this year.. why is it that it hurts me so deeply and he is completely unaffected?

If he's anything like my H...or any of the typical MLC script stuff...they are so clouded by the fog around them they can't see beyond anything but themselves. I think they do have moments where they miss things, but they can't allow themselves to admit that otherwise how could they justify what they're doing.

Also, I think when they give into things like this...letting you have D for Easter...it helps to appease their guilt. Same reason my H said to me that we'll figure out something for Easter weekend. What suddenly he has empathy for me?? They know they're already doing wrong by taking this much time away from us and our very young children...so when the holidays hit they feel even more guilty. They'd rather be without them then deal with the guilt of taking them away from us. Kind of a self-centred, yet generous gesture. Magnanamus if you will!!

Like I said, my H (although 29) has followed this script to a tee thus far...I only hope it continues to play out by the same script.
J~