Cat, I have to ask "what the H was your MC doing?" How is going back to the beginning of the M and re-hashing any and all hurts going to help you two as a couple? That pisses me off. All it did was pretty much what any moron could expect it would do, enhanced the loss of love! A Solution Focused/ Oriented Counsellor would have interupted and said "is this what you two want to do with your time today?" What about discussing the times you two feel really connected together, even if it's only been a rare occurance! What about talking about what things are going well for you, find the EXCEPTIONS and build on them. The reason Michelle helped develop the Divorcebusting approach is because what you and your H just experienced KILLS HOPE! Sitting around emoting about all the horrors of twenty years ago or even the recent years is a useless demoralizing exercise which was not necesssary. You guys know it sucks that's why you're there! How did any of this session help? Sorry for the rant, it just pisses me off to see you go through this kind of nonsense! Give yourself time to reflect and put that behind you before making any plans. Sorry you're hurting right now. Oh, just to add, I have two divorced female friends who have both said that MC was the most horrible experience of their lives! How sad that what is supposed to help becomes a horror story? Feel better!
